Keeping your relationship fresh can be
a task. Living with each other can be something that often takes the
excitement out of relationships, however there are plenty of ways to
keep things fresh and these are some great tips to do so.
1. Remember the things both of you did
the first-year you were dating!
As the years go by, most of us get into
a certain routine and completely forget about our relationships. We
lose our gentleness, patience, understanding, and thoughtfulness
toward our partner. Try to remember all the things that you did for
your partner during the first year of your relationship. Now you need
to start doing these things again to refresh your relationship.
2. Make sure you ask for what you want.
Most of us assume that our partners
know us so well after some time that we don't need to ask for what we
want. This is where most of us go wrong. When we live under such
assumptions, expectations are set, and they are quickly deflated.
These small things can stale your relationship with your partner.
This is why it is important that you ask for what you want whether it
be emotional, sexual or whatever wants.
3. Become an expert on your partner.
Try to understand
who your mate really is and what sort of thing excites him or her. It
is not what we "think" that he or she wants, but it is all
about what really resonates with him or her. If your partner thinks
that something is important, it doesn't have to make sense to you,
but you just need to do it. Here are some goodtips.
4. Don't ask "how was your day."
Most of us would ask "how was your
day" at the end on a long day. This is a boring question that
will lead to a boring answer such as, "fine, how was yours?"
This will do nothing to improve your relationship. In fact, you are
losing an opportunity to connect with your partner even in a small
way by asking such a silly question. Instead, why not ask something
like "what was the most challenging part of your day?" You
will get an oppotunity to better understand your significant other by
the amazing answers you receive for such a question.
5. Create a weekly ritual to check in
with one another.
The process begins with both of you
asking each other what worked and what did not the previous week. You
also can ask what needs to be done to improve things in the coming
weeks. Try to get on the same page with your schedules during this
weekly ritual. Plan a date night, and discuss the improvements both
of you would like to see in your relationship during the next few
weeks and months.
6. Keep it sexy.
What might happen if both of you
decides to increase the behaviours that you find "good" or
"sexy" and limit the behaviours you find "bad?"
It can refer to bedroom preferences as well as behaviours that excite
you about your mate in your day to day lives. Do you prefer if he/she
helps you with the housework? Do you dislike it when he or she uses
the washroom with the door open? Talk about your likes and dislikes
if you plan to make your relationship a great one within the next
couple of months. A little bit of outside input can be a good idea –
why not go old school with a classic like an illustrated version of the Kama Sutra
7. Get creative with the time you spend
together.
Adding a little novelty to your
relationship can bring in a huge change to your somewhat stale
relationship. It is high time that you break out of the traditional
"dinner and movie" routine and rejuvenate your relationship
with a bit of novelty. Hop on to the internet for "cheap date
ideas" and you will be blown away by all the options that are
available to you. Are you finding it difficult to afford a
babysitter? Then, why not swap babysitting time with your friends
that have kids. It is 100% free, and your friends will jump at the
idea since they get to drop their kids at your place when they
require it.
