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The 4 Steps To Addressing A Personal Problem

 


One of the worst narratives we can ever tell ourselves is that we are uniquely broken or uniquely unable to recover and live a good life. That’s not true. People in the harshest circumstances often overcome their difficulties and learn to live with a nobility many of us would feel amazed by. The second worst narrative we can tell ourselves is that we deserve self-pity. Even if we actually, genuinely do, that idea holds us down and prevents us from healing.


So - if you have a personal problem, how do you move forward and better yourself? How can you untangle this difficulty? It might be that you’re grappling with trauma after a hard relationship. It might be that you finally wish to overcome an addiction you have. For others, addressing their temper or alcoholism can be the most important priority they have in life.


But how can you address a personal problem in the best possible sense? Can you just start at your own will? Or does it take time? The latter. Let’s consider how the first four steps of this process works:


Accepting The Problem


Accepting the problem is the foremost and perhaps most essential step. We can never make progress unless we accept there’s an issue. Strangely, some people wish to change but still don’t accept there’s a problem they have to face in the first place. That’s how powerful our self-delusions can be, particularly in substance abuse situations and efforts that will change how our entire life is lived from top to bottom.


It might be that your partner is abusive to you. The first step is to understand this isn’t your fault, and that you do deserve help and respect. Accepting that can be the hardest thing to do, because it shows that you may have been living in faulty surroundings, and everything you had accepted as true and good is now on questionable ground. However, accepting the problem helps you more easily move onto our next step, and in fact, you cannot continue without it:


Understanding The Problem


Once you have accepted the problem it’s time to understand, in as much detail as possible, what the problem actually is and how it manifests in your life. It might be that you have an addiction to alcohol. How is this affecting your life? Well, it might be that you calculate how much money you’re spending on booze each month. It might be charting the path of your job, and the worrying risks that have necessarily come from abusing this most dizzying of substances. You may have fractious ties with your family. Understanding the consequences can also help you understand the roots of why you are attracted to this behaviour. This takes time and energy to understand, but you do need to understand it. If you can ensure this approach is met, you can more easily move forward and address the personal problem by:


Seeking Help & Staying Honest


Staying honest with yourself is essential. Asking for help doesn’t mean you are weaker, quite the contrary. Getting help at an outpatient program, for example, can be a step you take to find professional assistance and actually put practices in place to help you move forward and become a better, more wholesome, more understanding version of you. Seeking help and staying honest means becoming vulnerable, but it also helps you become stronger than you may have been in a while. This is the burning off of the deadwood surrounding your personality and life plans. It can be thoroughly effective at helping you renew, regrow, and re-become who you actually are.


A Notable, Graded Path To Recovery


It’s important to have a notable, graded path to recovery. Recovery, no matter what the personal problem is, isn’t some vague measure of feeling that dissolves as quickly as it appears. It takes time, energy, enthusiasm, and marked improvements to help you get better. That can motivate you to continue, as progress is tracked and undeniable in that state. Think of how an overweight person deigns to lose weight. They don’t just make little changes in their diet and hope it sticks. They plan their meals, they count calories, they go for exercise each day and stretch when they can. In some cases, your personal problem may involve apologizing to those you have hurt. If you can follow these efforts, you’re much more likely to find a worthwhile, cohesive end result.


With this advice, we hope you can follow the four best steps to address any personal problem.

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