Actionable Steps To Improve Your Self-Confidence

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Hands up who is feeling full of self-confidence today? If you're the person sat at the back hesitantly wondering whether to put their hands up, then no, you probably aren't. And isn't that true of so many of us? We don't push yourselves to the front to give ourselves recognition. We dither over every decision we have to make. We are afraid to take steps that may appear risky.

Low self-confidence is something many of us have to deal with. Be it a low self-esteem about who we are and what we look like, to the paralyzing fears that prevent us from moving forward. If you're identifying with what we are saying, take comfort in the fact that you're not alone, but you don't have to resign yourself to the way you are thinking and feeling.There are actionable steps you can take to improve your self-confidence, and some of them can even be done today.

Consider the following as examples.


Dress well. It's the simple things that can improve our self-confidence, and sometimes it can be decided on the outfit we wear. While we might still be a jumble of nerves and fears inside, we can at least hide that through the clothing we choose to put on. But when other people start to take us seriously because we are dressed smartly, then we might also start to take ourselves seriously, and grow in confidence as a result.

Stop comparing yourself with others. Especially when it comes to our body image, we can unfavourably compare ourselves to others. Looking at the models in beauty magazines, or the Instagrammed photos of our friends, we decide our bum is too big, our breasts are too small, our skin is too saggy, and our hair doesn't look right. You may have been body shamed by others in your life, but let's face it, sometimes you body shame yourself. If improving your body will improve your self-confidence, be it through a breast augmentation or a detox diet, then so be it. But otherwise, be proud of your body. You don't have to look like everybody else, and besides, many of the photos of the models you see have been airbrushed anyway, so they are not what you would call authentic.

Practice positive self-talk. Following on from the above, sometimes, we are our own worst enemy. We hurt ourselves with negative thoughts - "I'm useless," "I'm not pretty enough," "other people are better than me," blah blah blah. Stop it! Stop damaging your self-esteem with this negative way of thinking. Instead, practice positive self-talk. Flatter yourself on the best parts of your body. Focus on your life's achievements. Give yourself some credit, instead of thinking the worst about yourself all the time.

Give yourself some me-time. Our low self-confidence often comes from being around others. If we're not comparing ourselves to them, then we are letting their words and actions define who we are, instead of being ourselves. Get away from it all for a while. Find a place where you can focus on who you are, so you can build up your self-confidence away from the influence of others. Write a journal, focussing on the positive things in your life. Give yourself some purposeful pampering, taking time to flatter your mind and body. Do those things that you do well, so you aren't in a position where you are almost guaranteed to fail. Whatever you do in your me-time, make it a positive experience for you, where you can build your self-confidence instead of being in a place where it might falter.

Ditch the people who hurt you. You can't escape everybody who hurts your feelings and who lowers your self-confidence. But there may be people in your life that you don't have to see very often, or that you can ditch completely. This includes those so-called friends who put you down rather than lift you up. They aren't really friends at all if they do or say things that hurt you. And this applies to anybody on your social media networks, who knowingly or unknowingly have a negative effect on your life. Get rid of them, tell them where to stick their hurtful words, and block them from your life. And then concentrate on the next step.

Believe

Be with the people who are good for you. There should be people in your life who make you feel good about yourself. These are the people who make you laugh. These are the people who listen and help you when you're feeling down. And these are the people who lift you up and help you get perspective when you're hard on yourself. These are the people you need to be with, and not the naysayers, gossipmongers, and critical assholes that really deserve no place in your life. Positive people will influence you the right way, so if you don't have enough of them in your life right now, seek them out. Join new groups, begin new hobbies, and find the people who can help you be yourself, rather than hanging out with those people who twist you up with their negative attitudes towards you.

Do something courageous. If you have any fears in your life, you are never going to overcome them by shielding yourself away from them. Sometimes, you have to confront them. And by doing so, you will both overcome the fear you had and benefit from renewed self-confidence because you dared to be brave and courageous. We don't know how this applies to your life today but think about the way your fears are holding you back, and do your best to pluck up the courage. These tips may help you to do it.

Courage

Empower yourself. Why are you lacking in confidence? If you are struggling at work, learn the skills you need to do your job, or start to look for another job that is more in tune with you. If you are terrified of public speaking, practice using this useful guide to help you. If you never know what to say at parties or social gatherings, increase your knowledge, and learn some interesting facts, so you have something worth saying. In whatever area you are weakest in, find a way to build strength. By empowering yourself, you will increase in confidence.




So, if you are suffering from a low self-confidence, don't accept it or beat yourself up about how inadequate you feel. Take actionable steps to build yourself up, and start by doing that today. And if you have any other useful tidbits of advice for our readers, let us know how you overcome your feelings of low self-confidence, and give those of who need a boost the lift we need. Take care, and thanks for reading!


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