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In Problem Solving Recovery Self Discovery

The 4 Steps To Addressing A Personal Problem


One of the worst narratives we can ever tell ourselves is that we are uniquely broken or uniquely unable to recover and live a good life. That’s not true. People in the harshest circumstances often overcome their difficulties and learn to live with a nobility many of us would feel amazed by. The second worst narrative we can tell ourselves is that we deserve self-pity. Even if we actually, genuinely do, that idea holds us down and prevents us from healing.

So - if you have a personal problem, how do you move forward and better yourself? How can you untangle this difficulty? It might be that you’re grappling with trauma after a hard relationship. It might be that you finally wish to overcome an addiction you have. For others, addressing their temper or alcoholism can be the most important priority they have in life.

But how can you address a personal problem in the best possible sense? Can you just start at your own will? Or does it take time? The latter. Let’s consider how the first four steps of this process works:

Accepting The Problem

Accepting the problem is the foremost and perhaps most essential step. We can never make progress unless we accept there’s an issue. Strangely, some people wish to change but still don’t accept there’s a problem they have to face in the first place. That’s how powerful our self-delusions can be, particularly in substance abuse situations and efforts that will change how our entire life is lived from top to bottom.

It might be that your partner is abusive to you. The first step is to understand this isn’t your fault, and that you do deserve help and respect. Accepting that can be the hardest thing to do, because it shows that you may have been living in faulty surroundings, and everything you had accepted as true and good is now on questionable ground. However, accepting the problem helps you more easily move onto our next step, and in fact, you cannot continue without it:

Understanding The Problem

Once you have accepted the problem it’s time to understand, in as much detail as possible, what the problem actually is and how it manifests in your life. It might be that you have an addiction to alcohol. How is this affecting your life? Well, it might be that you calculate how much money you’re spending on booze each month. It might be charting the path of your job, and the worrying risks that have necessarily come from abusing this most dizzying of substances. You may have fractious ties with your family. Understanding the consequences can also help you understand the roots of why you are attracted to this behaviour. This takes time and energy to understand, but you do need to understand it. If you can ensure this approach is met, you can more easily move forward and address the personal problem by:

Seeking Help & Staying Honest

Staying honest with yourself is essential. Asking for help doesn’t mean you are weaker, quite the contrary. Getting help at an outpatient program, for example, can be a step you take to find professional assistance and actually put practices in place to help you move forward and become a better, more wholesome, more understanding version of you. Seeking help and staying honest means becoming vulnerable, but it also helps you become stronger than you may have been in a while. This is the burning off of the deadwood surrounding your personality and life plans. It can be thoroughly effective at helping you renew, regrow, and re-become who you actually are.

A Notable, Graded Path To Recovery

It’s important to have a notable, graded path to recovery. Recovery, no matter what the personal problem is, isn’t some vague measure of feeling that dissolves as quickly as it appears. It takes time, energy, enthusiasm, and marked improvements to help you get better. That can motivate you to continue, as progress is tracked and undeniable in that state. Think of how an overweight person deigns to lose weight. They don’t just make little changes in their diet and hope it sticks. They plan their meals, they count calories, they go for exercise each day and stretch when they can. In some cases, your personal problem may involve apologizing to those you have hurt. If you can follow these efforts, you’re much more likely to find a worthwhile, cohesive end result.

With this advice, we hope you can follow the four best steps to address any personal problem.

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In Hobbie Morning Routine Wardrobe Overhauls Yoga

Getting Your Zing Back


Sometimes in life with work, learning, raising children, and just in general, we can feel like we have a sparkle a little bit dulled. And it might be small things, you might not notice them at first.

Yet, one morning you wake up, and you don’t quite feel the same. 

You noticed that day after day you are putting on the same outfit, same shoes; in fact, your routine while comfortable, hasn’t changed in years. You might even find that where once you would wear bright colors and bold prints, that’s just not you anymore.

And with everything going on, your confidence to do such things, to dress how you enjoy dressing, has somehow lessened.

There is a difference between getting your sparkle back and trying to be an old you. Let’s talk about some of the things that you can do to feel refreshed and get your zing back. Routine This might sound strange, but even the most spontaneous and exciting person that you know will benefit mentally from routine. Not everything should be in strict time allotments, much like Hugh Grant in about a boy who lived his life in 15-minute allocations.

There are some things that you should be able to rely on.

The majority of people enjoy structure and routine-even if they say they don’t.

If you are currently between jobs, or have just hit maternity leave, or are taking a break, then the structure can be more difficult. However, you can create it for yourself.

  • Go for a walk at the same time each day.

  • Create a morning routine that involves waking up at the same time and eating at the same time

  • Go to bed every day at the same time apart from a Friday and a Saturday.


When we aren’t feeling our best, it is very easy to let skincare and our haircare regiment slip. Once you let it slide, it won’t be long before you’re suffering from breakouts, dry skin, hyperpigmentation, and you might even notice fine lines and wrinkles. 

And these can have a knock effect on the confidence that you were starting to build. 

Make sure that you always have a morning routine, something that leaves your skin feeling refreshed and you too.

Here is a sample routine

  • Wake up at 6 am
  • Cleanse, tone, moisturize
  • Exfoliation on a Friday evening
  • Facemasks for Thursdays and Sundays
  • And deep condition hair weekly

You might not feel like doing these when you are in a little bit of a slump come up, but they will help you get your zing back.

Wardrobe overhaul

If you are wearing the same thing day in and day out you’re probably going to get very bored very quickly. And although those clothes probably suit you and make you feel safe, they might not make you feel great.

It’s time to do an inventory of your wardrobe and see what you have and what you need. If you’ve got plenty of clothes that don’t fit for one reason or another, it’s time to say goodbye. Only have things in your wardrobe that you truly love to wear. And it’s always great to have a few items of women’s elegant wear just for those days that you feel a little bit spicy.


When we learn a new skill, our brains get very, very happy. Like all of the other muscles in the body the brain wants and needs to be flexed and worked. This can have a ward of boredom, depression, stress, anxiety. And when you learn something, you feel like you understand and have knowledge in a specific area. Those things can really build your confidence.

And well, you might be tempted to say watching Netflix is a hobby; slouching on the couch isn’t going to give you the huge perk that learning a new skill will.

Here are some super fun hobbies that have been hailed as the best ones for improving happiness.

Running, we all know the exercise is essential, but it can often feel a little bit daunting to head to the gym and sweat it out. You can run from the comfort of your own home with a running machine, will head out, and run your favorite route. Put in some headphones and get a phone strap, and you can hello and have fun. There are many apps that can set you running challenges.

Yoga is great due to the slow breathing and the concentration of mindfulness. Choosing to move in very specific ways of getting a balance and even grateful core strength. It relaxes and stretches. Yoga is great for people who need to destress.

Writing is one of the most cathartic things that you can do. You can create a blog online or simply use a notebook, whichever you prefer. Whatever you write is in Tiley up to you, and it is a great way for the brain to process emotions and ideas.

All of these hobbies have a theory and method behind them. Things you need to learn in order to do them better. And that makes up mine is very happy indeed.

It is important to give yourself time to find out more about the new you. After all, if it has been some years since you’ve given yourself some serious attention, it could be hard to remember that you are always worth dusting off, picking back up, and getting your zing back.

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In Hearing Issues Hearing Loss Heart Problems

Five Ways To Tell That Your Hearing Is Getting Worse

 Hearing is a sense that we often take for granted. Not only does it allow us to hear things around us and have conversations with other people, but it can also help us keep our balance and also perceive things like depth and space. Our ears do a lot more work than people take for granted, hence why it’s important to protect our ears.

But did you know that 466 million people worldwide have some kind of hearing loss? This is an incredible number and experts suggest that we might see this number grow to 900 million by 2050. This isn’t always a genetic or ageing problem either. In fact, one of the most common reasons for hearing loss is exposure to loud noises which is completely preventable.

But how do you tell if you’re having hearing problems? In this post, we’re going to discuss five ways to tell if your hearing is getting worse.

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In Work Health Issues Work Issues

Work Related Health Issues That Everybody Should Be Aware Of

 If you were putting together a list of things that are bad for your health you would probably think of junk food, sugar and lack of exercise, but what about work? Most people don’t consider the impact that their work can have on their health, which is a big problem if you are trying to live a healthier lifestyle.

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In Excerise Weight Loss

Why Are Your Current Weight Loss Exercises Not Working?


Losing weight is hard work. And it can be very disheartening when your efforts aren't rewarded with the desired results. However, if you maintain the same strategy, the same results will inevitably be seen. Identifying the source of your shortcomings before rectifying the situation is the only way to steer yourself to a better future.

Here are four key reasons why you're not currently seeing the results you deserve, along with what can be done to fix the situation.

1) You Lack Motivation

The only way to successfully lose weight is to commit yourself to the process. Without a genuine source of motivation, dragging yourself to the gym on a cold winter morning will become very tough. Conversely, when you truly want success, nothing will stop you.

Only you can determine where that motivation comes from. Whether it's wanting to be a more active parent or to gain self-confidence, inspiration is vital. Aside from preventing skipped days, it'll play a key role in getting more out of each workout. In turn, this will enhance your progress.

You can maintain the motivation by competing against friends.

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2) Plans Aren't Tailored To You

The fundamental formula for fat loss couldn't be simpler. If you burn more calories than you consume, you will see progress. Unfortunately, the human body is a complex machine. Crucially, we are all unique. As such, any strategy should be built around your personal needs.

This process should consider your goals, current lifestyle, and limitations. Tests from Dynamic DNA Laboratories can provide biological insight for guidance. Knowledge is power and a better understanding of your body can only point you towards better results. 

Better still, knowing that plans are optimized for success can deliver added confidence in the method.

3) They're Not Supported By A Healthy Lifestyle

Following the right fitness plan is an integral feature in finding the right strategy for weight loss. But it is far from being the only influential factor. If the supporting features aren't in place too, a lot of the good work achieved during workouts will be lost.

Nutrition and hydration are naturally essential pieces of the jigsaw. However, it's equally crucial to ensure that you get enough sleep to promote a better physical recovery. Listening to Calm sleep stories and music can work wonders. Best of all, you'll have more energy for workouts.

Until all aspects of your life are connected, results will remain limited.

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4) You Aren't Tracking Your Progress

It's one thing to follow what is perceived to be a good program. In truth, though, the results will reveal all you need to know. While you shouldn't expect overnight success, extended stagnation tells you that a change is needed. So, regular monitoring is key.

Tracking your weight loss isn't only about the scales. The way your clothes hang on your body will have a big influence too. Learning how to take your measurements in the correct way is an important step. Likewise, you must keep setting little milestones en route to bigger goals.

Get this right, and the pounds will continue to drop until your targets are hit.

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